How to Say Hard Things Without Losing Yourself

Do you over-talk when something really matters?

Do you spend so much time trying to figure out the perfect words that you end up avoiding the conversation altogether?

Maybe you need to raise your prices. Enforce your terms and conditions. Tell a client how they can work with you. Set a boundary. Say no. Or tell someone the relationship simply isn't working anymore.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to figure out exactly what to say.

But here's what I've learned...

You don't need to get better at saying hard things.

You need to get better at holding hard things.

In this episode, I'm sharing a real client example of what happened when she learned to hold more power in her communication and started creating clearer boundaries around her terms, conditions and how clients could book her.

And this goes way beyond business.

We're talking about the capacity to stay with yourself when the conversation gets uncomfortable, instead of spiraling, over-talking, over-explaining or abandoning what you actually wanted to say.

Inside this episode, we talk about:

• Why knowing the "right words" isn't enough
• What over-talking can reveal about your capacity to hold tension
• Why we avoid conversations when we're overly focused on saying them perfectly
• How stronger boundaries change the way people respond to you
• What raising your prices, enforcing your policies and ending a relationship have in common
• The gap between how powerful you feel inside and how much of that power actually comes through your voice

Because your voice doesn't become more powerful when you find the perfect sentence.

It becomes more powerful when you can say the sentence and stay.

That's the work.

Not saying the hard thing better.

Holding the hard thing better.

And when you learn how to do that, your boundaries get clearer, the over-talking starts to quiet down, and your voice finally begins to match the powerful person you already know you are.